Family Reunion Lunch at Chinese New Year Eve （新年团圆饭）

I was standing at outside of parent’s house and not dare to step in.

It was late night already, their reunion lunch already finished. Every year my family would prepare steamboat at house at CNY eve, it’s very important for Chinese community, no matter they are staying at the other side of world also have to come back and have a reunion lunch with family. It would be not forgiven if any of the family member dare to break this traditions. 

“Come in.” My father says to me at door

I was silent and don’t know what to say.

“Just come in.”

Moments later, I stepped into my parent’s house. My mother asked me a lot of questions, why I dare to embrace Islam without telling them first, and lots more. I believe that my family totally lost their mood in celebrating 2009 Chinese New Year. 

“So you are not going to eat anything that I cook anymore right?” My mother asked

I was still remaining silent, I don’t know much to talk. I know that my decision may broke their heart into pieces, but I have to embrace Islam too because I realized that Islam is the right path. I was not inform my parents while register at Pejabat Agama because I afraid they would try anything to stop me.

“Are you feeling comfortable to live your life as Malay?”

“Why are you doing this to me? My heart feels like being stabbed by you.”

“I told your father that I don’t want to live anymore. I am already lost my son”

I tried to explain with my mother, but it seems like didn't make sense to her at all. How do I pick up my mother’s heart that broke into pieces, and stick it together? I know gaps would never disappeared after it’s stick up, but It’s much more better than I let it be.

At year 2009 is my first time ever that I was not having Reunion Lunch with my family. There are a lot of problems in finding the suitable steamboat restaurants, my mother wanted the “Chinese Taste” steamboat too no matter how I tried to recommend some Thai’s halal steamboat. It was so frustrating that my father still insist to ask me have a lunch and stay overnight with them. (In Chinese tradition, every family member should be stay overnight at CNY Eve in welcoming new years.)

Till this year CNY, my mother told me that she want to prepare steamboat at my family house. “I will not put pork inside it, why not you bring your wife and daughter to join us?” Of course I can tell her about samak or buy whole new set of steamboat pot, but there’s some problems I still need to beware of. CNY was getting closer and closer, I was still can’t figure out how do I solve this Reunion Lunch problem.

I can’t simply explain to my mother the beauty of Islam in speech but action. It need takes lot of effort in showing her that what I can and can’t do as a muslim. Then I would let her judge and understand how I live my way including how I talk with them. Before I getting know about Islam, I always shouted at my parents and not respect much.. I never appreciate what I have and being rude to everyone, until after I embraced Islam.. I am learning to talk gently and treat them well, I understand I broke their heart in my selfish decision so I want to show them that I am not ignorant son.

“I have a relative who married with malay and embrace Islam, after he embraced Islam hor.. His whole family very angry with him, they kick him out and never see him anymore for few years. Till now I am never know where is him.” I recalled my ex colleagues sharing her relative’s story in year 2008. I was remain silent and eating my vegetarian food with them.

“Yes lo yes lo.. I also don’t know why Islam law is so forcefully, it’s ok la if girl want to get marry with anyone or any race, girl would follow husband la but for the boy how come he need to follow girl’s religion and tradition??”Another colleague is arguing in this issue.

In Chinese community, girls who get married would need to follow husband’s every order, including religion status, tradition, surname and lots more. Husband have the total right in controlling everything, so called in Chinese Idioms “Follow the chicken or duck once married to either one of  it”. Including reunion lunch issue, wife have no right to celebrate it with her own family but follow husband back to his family living place.

So it’s become an weird issue that why husband must be the one who bowed down and follow muslim wife’s religion? According to surah Al-Baqarah : 221 :

Dan janganlah kamu berkahwin dengan perempuan-perempuan kafir musyrik sebelum mereka beriman (Memeluk Islam) ; dan sesungguhnya seorang hamba perempuan yang beriman itu lebih baik daripada perempuan kafir musyrik, sekalipun keadaannya menarik hatimu. Dan janganlah kamu (kahwinkan perempuan-perempuan Islam) dengan lelaki kafir musyrik* sebelum mereka beriman (memeluk ugama Islam). Dan sesungguhnya seorang hamba lelaki yang beriman lebih baik daripada seorang lelaki musyrik, sekalipun keadaannya menarik hati kamu. (Yang demikian ialah kerana) orang-orang kafir itu mengajak ke neraka (2), sedang Allah mengajak ke Syurga dan memberi keampunan dengan izinNya. Dan Allah menjelaskan ayat-ayatNya (keterangan-keterangan hukumNya) kepada umat manusia, supaya mereka dapat mengambil pelajaran (daripadanya).

* Lelaki yang berugama Islam diharamkan berkahwin dengan perempuan kafir musyrik, demikian pula perempuan yang berugama Islam diharamkan berkahwin dengan lelaki kafir musyrik.


** Haramnya orang-orang Islam berkahwin dengan orang-orang kafir musyrik, bukan sahaja kerana berlainan ugama tetapi juga kerana pergaulan mesra dengan mereka yang terjalin dengan kasih sayang sebagai suami isteri, akan mendorong orang-orang Islam melakukan sesuatu yang bertentangan dengan Islam, yang kesudahannya membawa ke neraka.

In this verse Allah SWT is not command “Paksalah mereka memeluk Islam sebelum berkahwin” but commanded this “Dan janganlah kamu berkahwin dengan perempuan-perempuan kafir musyrik sebelum mereka beriman (Memeluk Islam)”. Which means Islam is not forceful in religion issue, but it is partner’s self decision whether he/she want to embrace Islam or not. Being embrace Islam under self decision and awareness is much more better than forcing partner to follow Islam blindly, because partner will be playing important role in leading family at the future.

Tidak ada paksaan dalam ugama (Islam)*, kerana sesungguhnya telah nyata kebenaran (Islam) dari kesesatan (kufur). Oleh itu, sesiapa yang tidak percayakan Taghut**, dan ia pula beriman kepada Allah, maka sesungguhnya ia telah berpegang teguh, yang tidak akan putus. Dan (ingatlah), Allah Maha Mendengar, lagi Maha Mengetahui.  (Surah Al-Baqarah : 256) 

*salah satu dari asas ugama Islam ialah tidak adanya sesuatu paksaan. Yang perlu ialah memberikan penerangan dan Da’wah Islamiyah kepada orang ramai dengan cara yang baik dan bijaksana serta dengan contoh-contoh amalan yang baik menurut ajaran Islam yang sebenarnya. 


** Taghut: ialah Syaitan, berhala, dan apa sahaja yang menyesatkan.

In this two verse of Surah Al-Baqarah already explained that Islam is never forceful. But it’s more to community tradition being crashed with Hukum Allah S.W.T. It’s never easy to persuade family members to accept their beloved son being embrace Islam, however it’s son’s responsible to explain Islam in gentle or direct way to them. Getting run away from family never solve anything, but they should be taking initiative to prove that Islam is the righteous Religion.

Two weeks before Chinese New Year, my wife show me a newspaper published about Chinese Muslim Steamboat at Perak. That restaurant name is Jade Nusantara Steamboat, surprisingly the location are very near to my parent’s house (Less than 1KM). Thus I tried to call my parent and tell them that I can have steamboat reunion lunch with them, my mother’s first reaction was: “Are you sure that’s Chinese restaurant? It seems have a lot of malay waiters at there, and you know I prefer to Chinese taste steamboat only.”

“Of course mother, that’s really chinese’s restaurant. Why not you try to go there and take a look?”

At the same day I called my parent, they went to that restaurant at night and agreed to have Family Reunion CNY lunch at there, Alhamdulilah. I believe the restaurant boss have been talk with them in Chinese language, which makes them feels more confident that their steamboat would be more suitable to their taste. This would be the first time ever in my whole life celebrating CNY with family at Chinese Muslim Restaurant, which record a whole new historical day in my family tradition.

It was a wonderful family gathering in my whole life, I spent more than 2 years effort to enjoying this Reunion Lunch along my wife and daughter. Alhamdulilah.

Restoran Jade Nusantara Steamboat

Gong Xi Fa Chai... 

Waiting to be served... 

2 different soup for different taste..

Beautiful Quranic frames

Damia being holded by her grandfather 

This article also shared at Open SEAM. 

Hunger for Chinese Cuisine

"Seronok tak you pergi ke beijing melancong kat situ?" I asked my malay collegue.
"Seronok, yang tu company trip kami.. tiket pernebangan dibayar oleh syarikat mah.."

"Makan apa kat beijing?"
"Kami makan kat Restoran China Muslim, macam-macam jenis makanan ada.."

"Mestilah sedap kan?" I was imagine how great is the image of China Muslim Restaurants at there.
"Macam mana nak cakap ye... Tak sesuai dengan citarasa saya kot, saya rasa macam pelik-pelik je."

"Sebab tak pedas ke?" I guess I know what he means exactly.
"Ye la, makanan diorang semua tiada chili langsung. Ada seorang makcik siap bawa Sambal lagi, kami pun menyesal betul la tak bawa sos cili sendiri.."

Yes, that's how chinese cuisine taste like. There are no such thing as chili or sambal ever existed in chinese's cooking recipe. Mostly sweets, sour, tomato sauce and any other taste but except Hot and Spicy. When I was teenage, I can't even eat nasi lemak.. because the little but powerful sambal may make my face turn red and keep on sweating (Yap, even it's just nasi lemak.)

However, after one year stayed at Institut's hostel and being served with malay foods every day, my tongue are no longer Chiliphobia. It takes long time to let me get used with malaysia's spicy recipe, no matter it's tom yam, paprik, sambal, "Line-Clear" mamak rice.. All looks dele-fabu-licious to me now~

Few months before reverted, I am not even consume at chinese restaurant anymore.
No choice, 70% chinese restaurant are non halal, or I should say they are not aware the importance of halal according to islamic knowledge.

Sometime, I started to miss chinese cuisine.. But where can I find them?
Even though I am get used to malay and mamak food, I still hunger for halal chinese cuisine in Perak.

Last two weeks, I found out a chinese restoran with a Halal logo have been wiped out.
Well... What's the problem exactly? I do read a business book for businessman at bookshop, it's stated :"If you want to raise income for your restaurant, Go get a Halal Cert. It may raise your income more than 50%..." and sort of. Since they are only apply Logo Halal for higher income, thus they won't aware the importance of cooking recipe. Or I should say is there any special course for training people to cook Halal Food? Or is there any non muslim chief willing to learn and apply it seriously on food??



Alright, I would just go to XXX Kopitiam... With a "Pork Free" sign at outside. When the drinks is served, I am shocked with the round pad below my white coffee.. Isn't it Txgxr Beer logo? Then I look around, I notice there are group of chinese teenage are holding beer bottle and stuck it into their throat. This Kopitiam started to make me confused with what's their definition of "Pork Free". Well is it mean only no pork served, but any other than pork are ready to serve as well.

I am not blaming on those teen who are drinking beers at daylight, just that Kopitiam doesn't aware the real definition of muslim's lifestyle. Simply put a "Pork Free" sign at outside may mislead lots of muslim enter their restaurant.


Finally, I have become occasional customer to Yat Lai Restaurant at Kuala Kangsar.

This is truly chinese restaurant I have ever seen, been selling chinese cuisine foods and pau for 3 generation. What's the most interesting thing is they do serve halal food even they are not muslim. The tauke always wearing heavy glasses, casual shirt with short pants walking around to serve customer. Chinese, Malay and Indian customer keeps on coming in and out.

I look at their cashier counter, Tauke put up his religion's idol and dragon idol, which stated that he is not muslim anyway. But his family business which work hard on serving halal food have been won customer's heart and trust for 3 generation.

No halal logo or cert hang on the wall.
Because the restaurant's chief already realize how to prepare Halal food.


I ordered a cup of coffee..
Ohh... I miss it a lot. The taste is different from any other coffee. Kind of like Ipoh Old Town Coffee.



Sweet and Sour Chicken Rice, my all times favourite...



They got Pau daging, ayam and kaya. This Pau is superb delicious and soft skin, sold at RM1.60 each.

The food I am hunger for is just chinese cuisine with halal procedure, which they know what specific things to be avoid in their recipe. But nowadays many restaurant are focus more on the "Logo" rather than the "Procedure", that's why there are lots of different "Halal Logo" at market. Their aim is goes for more and more PROFIT, not how's the PRODUCT being PRODUCED.

Islam is the way of life, including way of cooking. But it's very hard to be practice in most non muslim restaurant, because the cooking procedure may makes them confused and they don't feel the importance of it. Like ingredients without alcohol, ayam yang disembelih...



Perhaps I should take a trip to Beijing too.
Instead of ordering Nasi Goreng Cina at Tom Yam Restaurant.


For More Photo about Yat Lai Restaurant, Please Click HERE

Credits to :
Holiday China Tour
This Is No Joke - Restoran Yat Lai
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