Tuesday, November 1, 2011

I Am Nujood, Age 10 And Divorced


"There you are !!" Hafeez ran into bookstore and grab my shoulder. "Alhamdulilah I found you at here too."

"Well... Why don't you give me a call? I waited so long in this shopping center and I just take a walk at bookstore."
"I forgot to bring my handphone, and I'm pretty sure this is the place I can found you." Hafeez added.


I wasn't really serious type of books reader while teenage time, honestly. I was spent most of my time in computer gaming and internet stuff. My heart was empty, and I did hope entertainment may wipe out the emptiness. Alhamdulilah, God do promise to His servants in remembering Him we might feel calm.

Dan orang-orang yang kafir berkata: “Mengapa tidak diturunkan kepada (Muhammad) satu mukjizat dari Tuhannya? “Katakanlah (wahai Muhammad): “Sesungguhnya Allah menyesatkan sesiapa yang dikehendakiNya (menurut undang-undang peraturanNya), dan memberi petunjuk ke jalan ugamanya, sesiapa yang rujuk kepadaNya, “(Iaitu) orang-orang yang beriman dan tenang tenteram hati mereka dengan zikrullah”. Ketahuilah dengan “zikrullah” itu, tenang tenteramlah hati manusia.

(Ar-R'ad 27-28)

After I admit Islam is the true religion, God is Allah and Muhammad SAW is the last prophet... I have been encountered a lot of questions by disbelievers. So I decided to learn more about Islam with self initiative. Not only Islamic book, I did look for social analysis and what western view about Middle East country. I love to compare different views from different author, it doesn't mean I agree with every author's view but more to survey what in their thoughts. It's not about how many books you have but it's how much you know about the world.

Untill one day, I accidentally saw a book with striking title :
【 I Am Nujood, Age 10 and Divorced 】

It is taiwan published book that translated in traditional chinese words, I was felt disturbing because it won't be something positive. While I took it up and take a glance at the back cover, just as I thought it is criticizing Yemen child bride situation.

"Another book that humiliating Islam... " I putted it back on rack.
After few weeks, out of curiosity I still bought the book. It is a real life story about a 9 years old girl who being married to  30 years old man. She was fight for divorce case with the help of her lawyer Shada Nasser, this youngest divorce case have been astonishing the whole world.

From left to right: Nujood Ali, Secretary of State 
Hillary Rodham Clinton, Shada Nasser

Nujood's ordeal began last February, when the family gathered to celebrate her wedding to a motorcycle deliveryman in his 30s. She first set eyes on the groom when she took her marriage vows. After spending her wedding night with her parents and 15 brothers and sisters, Nujood was taken by her new husband to his family village, where, she says, he beat and raped her every night. After two nightmarish months he allowed her to visit her parents, who rebuffed her pleas to end the marriage.

Nujood finally found her moment to escape one day, when her mother gave her a few pennies and sent her out to buy bread. Instead she took a bus to the center of the capital, Sanaa — a city of 3 million people — where she hailed a taxi and asked to be taken to the courthouse. She had never been inside a courtroom but had once seen one on television, she says, and knew it was a place where people went for help. There she sat silently on a bench, uncertain as to what to do, while crowds of people scurried past, scarcely glancing at the quiet child. It was only once the courthouse emptied during the lunch recess that the judge noticed her and asked why she was there. "I came for a divorce," she told him. Horrified, he took her to his house to play with his 8-year-old daughter, and granted the divorce two days later.

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Apparently in the book also questioning about Siti Aishah's getting married at young age, and what her husband did is only following what prophet did. For sure the age of Siti Aishah have been a controversy among religion's debate. In Islam God doesn't ask us to follow anything blindly, but God command us to find the truth and THINK about it. Therefore I have been found an interesting article from Utusan website. 

Menurut Abdul Rahman bin Abu al-Zinad: “Asma lebih tua 10 tahun berbanding Aisyah”. (Siyar A’lam al-Nubala, Al-Zahabi, Jil. 2, hlm. 289, Mu’assasat al-Risalah, Beirut, 1992).

Menurut Ibn Kathir: “Asma lebih tua 10 tahun daripada adiknya Aisyah”. (Al-Bidayah wa al-Nihayah, Ibn Kathir, Jil.8, hlm. 371,Dar al-Fikr al-Arabi, 1933).

Menurut Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani: “Asma hidup sehingga usia 100 tahun dan meninggal pada 73 atau 74 H”. (Taqrib al-Tahzib, Ibn Hajar Al-Asqalani, hlm. 654, Bab Fi al-Nisa’, al-Harf al-Alif, Lucknow) Menurut sebahagian besar ahli sejarah, Asma, saudara tertua daripada Aisyah berbeza usia sebanyak 10 tahun. Jika Asma wafat pada usia 100 tahun pada tahun 73 H, Asma seharusnya berusia 27 atau 28 tahun ketika hijrah (622M).

Jika Asma berusia 27 atau 28 tahun ketika hijrah (ketika Aisyah berumah tangga), Aisyah seharusnya berusia 17 atau 18 tahun. Jadi, Aisyah, berusia 17 atau 18 tahun ketika hijrah pada tahun di mana Aisyah berkahwin. Berdasarkan pendapat Ibn Hajar, Ibn Katir, dan Abdul Rahman bin Abu al-Zinad, usia Aisyah ketika berkahwin dengan Rasulullah adalah 19 atau 20 tahun.



We need to research more about history because Prophet Muhammad SAW wasn't normal human who was possible commit sins. Prophet have been commanded by Allah SWT to be good example and messenger for whole world, history have been declared that he is the greatest leader in religion and politic. Those who misuse the hadith about Siti Aishah only aged 6 while getting married as excuse in practicing child marriage is irresponsible. They are wrongdoing the human right commanded by God in Islam and claims as if it's "following the prophet way". 

Pada Zaman Umar Khattab, seorang lelaki ditangkap kerana mencuri dan beliau dibawa menghadap Umar. Lelaki itu disoal, "Mengapa kamu mencuri?" Lelaki itu menjawab, "Kerana Allah mentakdirkan ini ke atas saya." Umar marah dengan lelaki ini lantas beliau terus berkata, "Pukul lelaki ini dengan 30 sebatan selepas itu potong tangannya." Lelaki ini terkejut dengan hukuman itu dan terus bertanya, "Mengapa hukumannya begitu berat?" Umar Khattab berkata, "Kamu dipotong tangan kerana mencuri dan disebat kerana berdusta atas nama Allah."

(Minda Muslim Super pg 303 By Dr. Danial Zainal Abidin)

Personally, I feel pity with what happened on this little Nujood Ali and impressed with her act in divorcing husband. Children marriage occasionally happening at low level economy of countries, they didn't choose to be young fiancée but due to family problem they become victims. Alhamdulilah now she is able back to school like normal although her family is embarrassed by others.

So back to Malaysia... 
Is it permitted to marry a kid according to Malaysia Syariah Law?

Fasal 8. Umur minimum untuk perkahwinan.
Tiada sesuatu perkahwinan boleh diakadnikahkan di bawah Enakmen ini jika lelaki itu berumur kurang daripada lapan belas tahun atau perempuan itu berumur kurang daripada enam belas tahun kecuali jika Hakim Syarie telah memberi kebenarannya secara bertulis dalam hal keadaan tertentu.
 
Source

Dealing with books is just like dealing with people. You just don't simply trusted into someone easily. There are so many Taiwan published book mentioned about middle east situation, people would be too easily mislead till they thinks it's all because of Islam fault. In this case dakwah about Islam should be more precisely focus on world issue and loosen the knot.

This is the challenge of muslim nowadays, keep on updated with world's news and God have been commanded us to THINK about it. There was people who criticized me with :"Hey... Ain't you got brain? Are you brainless and not able to think logically? Are you gonna accept every little thing that preached in such religion?"

Nope, God command us all mankind to think. The most special gift from God is we do have mind and soul to differ everything.

Dan Dia lah jua yang mengadakan bagi kamu pendengaran dan penglihatan serta hati (untuk kamu bersyukur; tetapi) amatlah sedikit kamu bersyukur. Dan Dia lah yang menciptakan serta mengembangkan kamu di bumi, dan kepadaNyalah kamu akan dihimpunkan. Dan Dia lah yang menghidupkan dan mematikan; dan Dia lah yang menentukan pertukaran malam dan siang. Maka tidakkah kamu mahu berfikir?

(Al-Mu'minun 78-80)

Normally superstition is asked us to believe in matters blindly. Well... Definitely not in Islam. Because we all as mankind to encouraged to THINK.


Isn't that the priceless gift from God to everyone of us?

6 comments:

  1. Assalamualaikum... My first visit to your blog. Interesting facts. I really think that perspectives from reverts like yourself will help inject some fresh reviews on Islam. The reason is simple, you search, read, compare and analyse. Borned muslims tend to take things for granted, clueless on the certain practices in Islam despite doing it everyday. Some practices are thought to be Islamic, but actually are not thought in Islam or performed as the Prophet's sunnah. Gulped down into the comfort zone I guess.

    Anyway, keep writing..!

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  2. salam sdr Ikhwan Ng,
    Pada pendapat sy hadis yg mengatakan Nabi s.a.w. berkahwin dengan Aishah pada umor 6 tahun dan bersekedudukkan pada umor 9 tahun itu adalah hadis palsu. Perkahwinan kanak2 adalah warisan dari zaman Jahiliyah. Jadi untok melanjutkan tradisi ini mereka mengada2kan hadis tersebut. Cuba kita lihat perkahwinan kanak2 ini masih berleluasa sehingga hari ini terutama sekali di Semenanjung Arab, Pakistan dan Afganistan.

    Mengikut Al-Quran adalah mustahil bagi Nabi s.a.w. berkahwin dengan kanak2. Ini kerana ayat Q4:6 dengan jelas menyebut; "Waibtaloo alyatama hatta itha balaghoo alnnikaha fain anastum minhum rushdan...." bahasa Ingerisnya "And test the orphans [in your charge] until they reach a marriage­able age; then, if you find them to be mature of mind,..." disini garis panduan yg ditetapkan olih Allah bagi umor perkahwinan adalah (bahasa Arabnya) "rush'dan" bahasa ingerisnya "sound judgement" atau "mature of mind".

    Adakah kanak2 yg berumor 6 tahun/9 tahun sudah memenuhi syarat tersebut?

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  3. rejangbasin :

    Walaikumsalam and thanks for visiting my blog. Yup since I am back to Islam and there are a lot of interesting facts I found and somehow I also encounter some weird statement. So I hope by sharing at blog may get more discussion from readers and also let people realize what Islam really about.

    InsyaAllah my writing will be keep going on.

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  4. Anonymous :

    Salam Saudara. Dalam Islam kita tetap boleh mengaji dan bersoal lebih mendalam mengenai asal usulnya, sebab Tuhan dah memang menyuruh manusia supaya mengaji dan berfikir. Juga sering diminta mengaji sejarah iaitu orang yang sebelum kita.

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  5. assalamualaikum...

    try watch this vid: (marriage stories) maybe it will help

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=8QNm11D4r84

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