Would You Marry Me?

Gambar hiasan semata-mata..

I was met a china friend at internet. She get to know me through my chinese blog. She asked me a lot about Islam information because she does have muslim boyfriend at Malaysia. Where they were plan to get married so as usual she was asked to embrace Islam.

It’s hard to find islamic knowledge in chinese language, since she is china’s civilian. I have few islamic books but all of them are written in Bahasa Malaysia. So I was try hard to translate every answer from my book into chinese language while she ask me at Internet. For few months of communicating through MSN, She tells me a lot about China and herself.

 

“I don’t like to eat pork since I was small, perhaps I should say I never eat at all. My friends also teasing at me that I'm looks like muslim even though  I am not.”
Alhamdulilah, I think she have potiential to learn more about Islam. So I give away all of my effort in translate islamic knowledge to her.

 

“He asked me to convert so we can get married at Malaysia. But I am just don’t understand why Malaysia have such law? Because at China there’s no such law, everyone are feel free to embrace any religion they wanted.. Or I should say religion and marriage is never become an issue in China.”
Well.. This is a complicated question which related to Syariah Law in Malaysia. I was not dare to asnwer it but just get to know a little bit more about China’s politic and laws.

For few months of chatting with her at internet, I written a lot of islamic information and she seems try hard to understand it. Like why muslim don’t drink beer, why muslimah must be wearing hijab and sort of information. She also tell me that boyfriend’s family were welcome her to their house, just she can’t understand Malaysia’s language while they were chit chat. As I know she take flight from China to Malaysia few days in every month for dating with her boyfriend. (Seems like she is raised up in wealthy family)

Untill one day, she told me this…
“Actually… My boyfriend and his father are drinkers. That’s why we are easy to get along since we met at Malaysia.”
“I am just don’t understand… What’s the point if I am following every islamic knowledge as you explained and do it well, but my marriage partner will not follow it at all?” 
 

I was totally shocked. 

Since that day, I didn’t know much to write anymore while she asked me again about Islam. How can she follow Islam while her partner is not? How they live their marriage while her boyfriend just want her to apply a “Permit to get married” by asking her embrace Islam? Dakwah is responsible for every muslim, but when embrace Islam being treated as “Permit in Law”.. I can’t even imagine how’s that gonna be.
 

I am not intend to insult malaysian muslim or Islam, but just wanted to share the real story from my friend. When Islam is being practised for their Nafsu, it would turn into very terrible hoax from themselves. I also recalled lots of cases happened in Malaysia like muallaf wanted to murtad, reason given is they never practice Islam and their husband/wife have left them away, which makes them think what’s the point if they keep on embracing Islam since their partner have been leave them away.

At the next month, She message me at msn again :“I am break up with my boyfriend already.. I am accidentally saw his phone records that he have another girlfriend. That’s why he keeps on hide his handphone while we are dating, now I am understand everything already.. It’s hurt but I think I should leave him, he is not appreciated what I have been sacrifice.”


Alhamdulilah, the only thing I would say.
After that, she is not asked anything about Islam with me anymore. I also understand that I can’t force her.. Perhaps I should say only Allah swt may open her heart one day, Insyaallah.

Dan apabila dikatakan kepada mereka: Janganlah kamu membuat bencana dan kerosakan di muka bumi, mereka menjawab: sesungguhnya kami orang yang hanya membuat kebaikan. Ketahuilah! Bahawa sesungguhnya mereka itulah orang yang sebenarnya membuat bencana dan kerosakan, tetapi mereka tidak menyedarinya.

(Surah Al-Baqarah 11-12)

Hunger for Chinese Cuisine

"Seronok tak you pergi ke beijing melancong kat situ?" I asked my malay collegue.
"Seronok, yang tu company trip kami.. tiket pernebangan dibayar oleh syarikat mah.."

"Makan apa kat beijing?"
"Kami makan kat Restoran China Muslim, macam-macam jenis makanan ada.."

"Mestilah sedap kan?" I was imagine how great is the image of China Muslim Restaurants at there.
"Macam mana nak cakap ye... Tak sesuai dengan citarasa saya kot, saya rasa macam pelik-pelik je."

"Sebab tak pedas ke?" I guess I know what he means exactly.
"Ye la, makanan diorang semua tiada chili langsung. Ada seorang makcik siap bawa Sambal lagi, kami pun menyesal betul la tak bawa sos cili sendiri.."

Yes, that's how chinese cuisine taste like. There are no such thing as chili or sambal ever existed in chinese's cooking recipe. Mostly sweets, sour, tomato sauce and any other taste but except Hot and Spicy. When I was teenage, I can't even eat nasi lemak.. because the little but powerful sambal may make my face turn red and keep on sweating (Yap, even it's just nasi lemak.)

However, after one year stayed at Institut's hostel and being served with malay foods every day, my tongue are no longer Chiliphobia. It takes long time to let me get used with malaysia's spicy recipe, no matter it's tom yam, paprik, sambal, "Line-Clear" mamak rice.. All looks dele-fabu-licious to me now~

Few months before reverted, I am not even consume at chinese restaurant anymore.
No choice, 70% chinese restaurant are non halal, or I should say they are not aware the importance of halal according to islamic knowledge.

Sometime, I started to miss chinese cuisine.. But where can I find them?
Even though I am get used to malay and mamak food, I still hunger for halal chinese cuisine in Perak.

Last two weeks, I found out a chinese restoran with a Halal logo have been wiped out.
Well... What's the problem exactly? I do read a business book for businessman at bookshop, it's stated :"If you want to raise income for your restaurant, Go get a Halal Cert. It may raise your income more than 50%..." and sort of. Since they are only apply Logo Halal for higher income, thus they won't aware the importance of cooking recipe. Or I should say is there any special course for training people to cook Halal Food? Or is there any non muslim chief willing to learn and apply it seriously on food??



Alright, I would just go to XXX Kopitiam... With a "Pork Free" sign at outside. When the drinks is served, I am shocked with the round pad below my white coffee.. Isn't it Txgxr Beer logo? Then I look around, I notice there are group of chinese teenage are holding beer bottle and stuck it into their throat. This Kopitiam started to make me confused with what's their definition of "Pork Free". Well is it mean only no pork served, but any other than pork are ready to serve as well.

I am not blaming on those teen who are drinking beers at daylight, just that Kopitiam doesn't aware the real definition of muslim's lifestyle. Simply put a "Pork Free" sign at outside may mislead lots of muslim enter their restaurant.


Finally, I have become occasional customer to Yat Lai Restaurant at Kuala Kangsar.

This is truly chinese restaurant I have ever seen, been selling chinese cuisine foods and pau for 3 generation. What's the most interesting thing is they do serve halal food even they are not muslim. The tauke always wearing heavy glasses, casual shirt with short pants walking around to serve customer. Chinese, Malay and Indian customer keeps on coming in and out.

I look at their cashier counter, Tauke put up his religion's idol and dragon idol, which stated that he is not muslim anyway. But his family business which work hard on serving halal food have been won customer's heart and trust for 3 generation.

No halal logo or cert hang on the wall.
Because the restaurant's chief already realize how to prepare Halal food.


I ordered a cup of coffee..
Ohh... I miss it a lot. The taste is different from any other coffee. Kind of like Ipoh Old Town Coffee.



Sweet and Sour Chicken Rice, my all times favourite...



They got Pau daging, ayam and kaya. This Pau is superb delicious and soft skin, sold at RM1.60 each.

The food I am hunger for is just chinese cuisine with halal procedure, which they know what specific things to be avoid in their recipe. But nowadays many restaurant are focus more on the "Logo" rather than the "Procedure", that's why there are lots of different "Halal Logo" at market. Their aim is goes for more and more PROFIT, not how's the PRODUCT being PRODUCED.

Islam is the way of life, including way of cooking. But it's very hard to be practice in most non muslim restaurant, because the cooking procedure may makes them confused and they don't feel the importance of it. Like ingredients without alcohol, ayam yang disembelih...



Perhaps I should take a trip to Beijing too.
Instead of ordering Nasi Goreng Cina at Tom Yam Restaurant.


For More Photo about Yat Lai Restaurant, Please Click HERE

Credits to :
Holiday China Tour
This Is No Joke - Restoran Yat Lai
SembangKuala- Pau, anyone?

My daughter

My sweet daughter are turns into one years old today..
Alhamdulilah I have a cute mix baby, not easy to raise daughter at our young age.

Shake hand shake hand ~

My Facebook

This is my Facebook Profile, specially for knowing muslim friends and sharing all about Islam.. My original facebook have too many friends from different races and religions, so I can't share too much about Islam because it's sensitive for them..

Just click on the pic above may add me as friends..
(Why garfield? May be because I am silent but full of thought like this garfield..)

Walking on the path of Islam

Recently I have found out that my father is written my muslim name in his handphone contacts. I don't have any idea how he know that since I have hide it as well.

Family always blame on me, they said I have long forgotten how they raise me up. I am only remain silent. My father even said he lost one son already, it's time to adopt a "anak angkat". I don't know they found him already or not, I am just keep on live my life as muslim.

Everytime I ask my father meet me at restaurant, we are having lunch together at mamak stall or malay's restaurant. His eyes are fulfilled with emptiness on me.. I know what in his mind, just like how he critics Islam a lots since I was small.

"Do you know why everyone needs religion?" My mind flashed back those old times, while I was form 4. He love to chat a lot with me, I always listen to what he said silently. I nodded for waiting his answer.

"Religion may let us feel safe and hold firm to it, so we won't stray away and believing in other religion. Our heart need to hold firm with it so we are not lost." He insisted.

I am fully understand why my father said like that, He is very religious in Buddhism religion.. But I also have a question deep in my heart. "What about if what you embrace now is the wrong path, but you still insist to walk on the wrong path till forever?"

The question never come out of my mouth.

When I have found the right path, I realise that the path I chosen is long forgotten by peoples. It's what Allah swt showed, and it's even mentioned in every prayer's Doa.

Tunjukilah kami jalan yang lurus.

(Surah Al Fatihah Ayat 6)

I am walking alone at the Islam path among my family.
Whenever someone ask me:"Are you embraced Islam together with family?" I would just smile and say no, it's self decision. Among all the relatives and family member, I am the only one who embrace Islam.

I am walking alone, I don't care what peoples critics about me.
I know it's the right path, and I never give up in protect my faith and heart. No matter how hard is the path I am passing through, I know I have found the path of light.

When I realize Allah swt is looking over me and everyone, thus I am not alone anymore.

Kad Akuan Masuk Islam

What frustrated a lot nowadays is do reverted muallaf need to change IC? EPF? Bank Account? From what I know, first they need go to Pejabat Agama and filling Borang Memeluk Islam. Then Pejabat will give a Kad Akuan Masuk Islam. However every state's Kad Islam is different. Like my Perak one is stated Nama Islam, Nama Asal, No. KP and Tarikh Islam.

About IC, Pejabat Agama Perak only advised me go to change IC on my own. Which mean OPTIONAL... Pejabat Agama does not change any muallaf's IC forcefully through their Jabatan, but it's for those muallaf self initiative to do it. Of course there's many people have to hide their Islam identity as they may get fired by employer or being thrown by family.

Tidak ada paksaan dalam agama (Islam), sesungguhnya telah nyata kebenaran (Islam) dari kesesatan (kufur). Oleh itu, sesiapa yang engkar kepada Taghut, dan ia beriman kepada Allah, maka sesungguhnya ia telah berpegang kepada tali yang teguh, yang tidak akan putus. Dan (ingatlah), Allah Maha Mendengar, lagi Maha Mengetahui.


(Al-Baqaraah ayat 256 )

Islam does not wipe away our name. It's still stated Nama ASAL as acknowledgement. The best proof is the Kad Islam above. But most people have been misunderstood about it.

From what I know now, there's a way for muallaf to embrace Islam silently without change IC first. But as for marriage with Muslim, so far I don't have any information about that..

Salah Faham Tentang Islam

Selalunya ada orang bertanya saya : Bagaimanakah kawan/kekasih saya boleh memeluk Islam? Dia sering bertanya saya tentang Islam, tetapi akhirnya dia telah berputus asa.

Ada sebuah buku yang boleh dicadangkan kepada kalian, iaitu keluaran Telaga Biru : Soal Jawab remeh-temeh - Salah Faham Tentang Islam. Di masyarakat non-muslim, Islam ialah agama yang sering disalah fahamkan. Ia begitu serius sehingga media massa juga memperbesarkan isu-isu yang tidak sepatutnya.

Antara persoalannya ialah, adakah setelah memeluk Islam si polan perlu meninggalkan keluarga dan adat resam dia? Mengapakah Islam sering memerangi pihak luaran? Kalao Islam itu benar, kenapa ada aliran Sunni dan Syiah? Kadang-kala kita ketahui jawapannya tetapi tidak mampu menjelaskannya dengan fakta yang tepat lagi jelas.

Maka jika kamu ingin menghapuskan salah faham mereka terhadap Islam, bacalah buku ini supaya segala kemusyilan dapat dijawabkan. (Sounds like I am promoter at bookshop plak..)


Contoh-contoh Soalan yang terdapat dalam buku ini :

-Orang Islam yang masuk Islam mesti kena tukar nama. Bahkan nama bapa dan keluarga asal pun ditukar juga. Betul ke peraturan ini daripada ajaran Islam?

-Orang barat mengatakan Islam tersebar dengan pedang. Maknanya Islam suka berperang dengan orang yang tidak menganut agama Islam. Betul ke persepsi ini?

-Islam seolah-olah menyuruh umatnya berpecah belah. Buktinya ada bermacam mahzab dalam Islam. Mengapa ada mahzab-mahzab dalam Islam?

-Islam sering disebut sebagai agama yang menindas wanita. Nampak gayanya apakah memang Islam betul-betul menindas wanita?


You may interested in this video:
Comperative Religion - Gerakan Tajdid - Islam yang disalah ertikan, Program Dakwah Non-Muslim ke-2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mcR61wPd_kE

A Trip To Perkim HQ

Last week I just attended courses at Grand Pacific Hotel. I can't entered my room because my roommate have been go to nowhere. So I just put my bags and take a walk outside hotel alone.. While I was take a walk at outside, I was accidentally met Perkim HQ.. And it's just in front of the Hotel I was staying.

So I was entered there and ask them whether I can get Al-Quran Chinese Translation. (Thanks to Muhammad Syukhri Shafee told me that I can ask for it at Perkim for FREE) Also I take a look at many booklets which is translated in Chinese language.

When I was looking at those chinese translated books, my feeling was like Wow... Is it true? Mostly Islam is preaching in Bahasa Malaysia, so far I only seen once chinese islamic book at PXPXLXR bookstore.. Published by "Sister In Islam", well... what's the content? I guess most of you know about it already.

I also have some chit chat with Pegawai Pendakwah Perkim, Muhammad Farhan Tee. He is a very humble and nice young man, same age like me 25 years old. However I believe what he have learned must me quite a lot till he holding the important position in Perkim. After that I was invited to Perkim Open House at the next day I visited them. Our speech not stay too long because I understand he is quite busy so I just leave Perkim and went to their Open House.

Alhamdulillah... I was finding Chinese Al-Quran for 2 years already. Finally I get it too when attended Kursus Jabatan. As appreciate their kindness for give me 3 chinese translation Al-Quran (Two for my friends who are finding it too), I attended Perkim Open House by taking Taxi.

So that's my first time dealing with Perkim HQ and Open House. While I went there for the first time, my feeling was very warm and happy. What I can see is different races who pray to Allah swt sitting at the same long table having their meal, there's no race issue among us. Allah swt already teaching us the most important value among us : PERPADUAN/UNITY. But I don't know anyone at there, so I just having my meal alone and look around people at there. I also can see one chinese family gathered at there, where's seems like chinese muslim husband and wife are enjoying their times with granda father and mother.



After that I leave Perkim Open House, I will never forget that's Allah swt given me a trip to there. Alhamdulillah.

(Opps... Utusan have been reported that Perkim Open House..)
http://ikhwanng.blogspot.com/2010/10/perkim-rai-saudara-muslim.html


Personally I already have one Al-Quran Bahasa Malaysia translated... My wife suggested me to buy Malaysia edition because Indonesia edition language may be confusing.

What I love about this Al-Quran is... "Dengan Izin dan bawah kawalan JAKIM" and their explanation for every single words in Al-Quran..


The Chinese Translated Al-Quran, donated by King of Saudi Arabia... Alhamdulillah finally I get it too. It's very meaningful to me because Chinese Language is my mother tongue, and it can be proven to people that Islam is for Universal. Especially the chinese words used in translation is very deep meaning.

A browse at how translations looks... Very beautiful right? I am totally impressed and thankful to Allah swt.

Oh I was took a lot Perkim Booklet too... Some of the books totally impressed me because China also have very many Islamic History which I never heard about. (And also scared my wife again, too many books already I have)

Chinese Islamic Booklets... Many surprises in here. I will scan all of them and put at my Blog.. Who knows there's someone curious about it?

I wish one day I will visit Perkim HQ again..

It's time to rearrange myself and blog

One day, my wife ask me a simple question:
"How much you know about solat now?"

I remain silent, I know what I learned is still very little. What I still not learned like doa after sembahyang, surah Al-Quran.. Zikir.

"Do you know, solat is the second pillar in Islam?"
"Ya I know."

"Then stop reading too much unrelated books, you still not clever enough to read those books. Even me myself as born muslim also can't understand thoroughly those books you bought."

I am looking at my books, all kinds of islamic books. Tanda Hari Kiamat, Perundangan Islam, Yakjuj dan Makjuj... I guess I have bought over 30 books in past 2 years.

I think what my wife said is right.
It's time for me back to the basic, learn it well in Solat. I am always feel too excited to learn everything about Islam, but I never realize I have forgotten I don't have firm basic knowledge in Islam, especially the second pillar of Islam. Sometime while I go to mosque praying there's few people become my jemaah at behind. I can read Al-fatihah, but I would remain silent after sembahyang, a terrifying hush...

Now I need to put much more effort in Iqra and Tajwid. Then I will try to correct my doa in praying, Insya Allah. I do have a retired teacher who willing to teach me Iqra, I am very appreciate him.

As for my blog, I think it's time to stop write too much about Islam. As I don't have any firm knowledge like others. What I should write may be just my little experience as muallaf, my joy and sadness, that' would be enough right?

Few more answers...

Well‭…‬ I think I should answer few more question shortly.‭ ‬Just my personal comment anyway based on question by Sister Aliya's "Soalan" (Link to Original Post).

5.‭ ‬Perlukah saya memberitahu keluarga saya bahawa saya mahu peluk Islam‭? ‬Atau masuk Islam secara senyap-senyap‭?

Kebanyakan orang memeluk Islam secara senyap-senyap,‭ ‬termasuk saya diri sendiri.‭ ‬Ia berpunca daripada bantahan keluarga serta konfliks keagamaan yang tidak dapat dielakkan.‭ ‬Bagaimanapun sebelum memeluk Islam,‭ ‬pastikan kamu mampu berdikari dan mempunyai‭ ‬kerja tetap.‭

Berdoa kepada Allah swt sentiasa agak ibu bapa terbuka hati pintu menerima kamu sebagai anak yang beragama Islam.‭ ‬Ingatlah Allah Maha Berkuasa lagi Maha Mengetahui.‭ ‬Menjalani kehidupan Islam secara senyap-senyap tidak boleh dikekalkan dengan jangka masa yang panjang,‭ ‬kita patut memilih masa yang sesuai untuk memberitahu keluarga.‭


6.‭ ‬Kalau saya masuk Islam secara senyap-senyap dulu dan berlakon seolah-olah saya belum Islam di hadapan ahli keluarga,‭ ‬bukankah itu‭ ‬bermaksud saya menipu ibu bapa dan ahli keluarga saya‭? ‬Bukankah Islam mengajar umatNya supaya sentiasa jujur‭?‬

Harus diingati bahawa khinzir adalah Najis Berat,‭ ‬Syirik adalah Dosa Besar.‭
Islam mengajar umatNya sentiasa jujur,‭ ‬tetapi Islam juga mengajar umatNya menjalani syariat kehidupan berdasarkan panduan Islam.‭

Sekiranya kamu membaca sejarah Nabi,‭ ‬ramai pengikut Islam terpaksa berlakon seolah-olah kafir,‭ ‬tetapi hati mereka tetap memegang teguh kepada Islam.‭ ‬Ada juga hamba Allah swt yang diseksa kerana pengakuan sebagai Muslimin seperti Bilal.‭


7.‭ ‬Apabila saya memeluk Islam,‭ ‬saya tidak lagi boleh melibatkan diri dalam ritual keagamaan keluarga saya yang masih nonMuslim.‭ ‬Sekiranya ibu bapa saya meninggal dunia,‭ ‬saya akan dituduh anak derhaka dan tidak mengenang budi kerana tidak melakukan upacara keagamaan mereka kerana ia bercanggah dengan ajaran Islam‭? ‬Bagaimana saya harus hadapi keadaan itu nanti‭?

Apabila nenek saya meninggal dunia,‭ ‬saya tetap menghadiri upacara keagamaan dan pengemubian.‭ ‬Saya tidak menjalankan sebarang upacara keagamaan untuk memelihara Akidah.‭

Kita sepatutnya melayan ibu bapa sebaik mungkin semasa mereka masih Hidup,‭ ‬bukannya setelah mereka meninggal dunia.‭

9.‭ ‬Perlukah saya menjadi Melayu apabila memeluk Islam,‭ ‬yakni berpakaian ala orang Melayu dan bertutur dalam Bahasa Melayu‭? ‬Bagaimanakah saya harus kekalkan identiti saya sebagai orang Cina tetapi beragama Islam‭?

Sekiranya bangsa kamu ialah cina,‭ ‬sehingga kamu meninggal dunia pun masih cina.
Kerana bangsa kamu ialah cina,‭ ‬DNA kamu pun berasal dari keluarga cina,‭ ‬bagaimanakah kamu boleh Transform sebagai Melayu‭?

Selagi kebudayaan yang tidak bercanggah dengan Islam,‭ ‬ia tetap boleh disambut dan dikekalkan.‭ ‬Seperti sambutan Tahun Baru Cina,‭ ‬Pesta Tang Lung,‭ ‬makan kuih bulan‭…‬ Agama Islam ialah universal,‭ ‬ia tidak dibezakan dengan kaum-kaum seperti agama lain.‭

Question from Sister Hajar : If a Muslim woman must wear the hijab, then why isn't all Muslim women wearing it?

Why wearing hijab? It's so hot and fussy! And it's looks ugly...
I am not a muslimah but I try my best to answer it. First of all, male's eyes are most easily attracted by female. It's different with female that's prefer romantic scene and sweet words. Just like an informal adage said as : "Girls fall in love with their ears, but guys fall in love with their eyeballs.."

Why it's said so? Because girl may fall in love with someone that's romantic, one of the reason why Titanic movie have been successfully win female's heart. As for guys, they are easily attracted and getting excited by "Looking" at girls only. Sad but true, pornography industry gain high profit is due to these "guys" who are weak in Iman or never know about it.

Hijab is for those Muslimah who want to protect themselves, no matter it's self value or self safety, It's also shown to the public that she's believing in Islam and practicing it. Allah swt know the weakness of His servants, that's why Hijab is for maintain the harmony in society. It's doesn't mean to insult or limit the freedom of female.

Female with hijab is still free to work, play, being social with friends. And lot's more hikmah inside it, wallahualam...

Wahai Nabi, suruhlah isterimu, anak perempuanmu serta wanita-wanita yang beriman, agar melabuhkan pakaiannya bagi menutup seluruh tubuhnya; Yang demikian lebih sesuai untuk mereka dikenali, maka mereka tidak akan diganggu. Dan Allah adalah Maha Pengampun, lagi Maha Mengasihani.

(Surah Al Ahzab ayat 59)

An interesting video : Why Hijab (Click Here)

Eating what my mother cooked

Food,‭ ‬become an important issue after reverted.
My mother first question after‭ ‬I‭ ‬reverted is:‭ ‬“You are not going to eat what‭ ‬I‭ ‬cooked anymore right‭?‬”

Well‭…‬ The answer may be yes,‭ ‬may be no.
First of all,‭ ‬everyone knows those plate and‭ ‬cooking pan which served Khinzir need to be Samak.‭ ‬It‭’‬s mean I can‭’‬t eat at my parent‭’‬s house without cleaning their plate and pan.‭ ‬But it‭’‬s also caused a misunderstand to my mother.

‭“‬I am already cooked your favourite chicken rice.‭ ‬Are you going home to eat with us‭? ‬I am not put any pork with it‭”
I refused.‭ ‬It‭’‬s really disappointed my mother.‭ ‬This incident happen after‭ ‬one month‭ ‬they knew I was reverted.‭

There‭’‬s many way‭ ‬I‭ ‬heard about how to eat at parent‭’‬s house who are still non-muslim.‭ ‬Some people change every plate and cooking pan at parent‭’‬s house,‭ ‬and their parent is not eat Khinzir anymore,‭ ‬Alhamdulilah‭…‬ And there‭’‬s also muallaf keep another set‭ ‬of‭ ‬cooking pan at parent‭’‬s house,‭ ‬while they go back their parent would specially serve food on those cooking pan only.‭ (‬And it‭’‬s locked while away from house‭)

Many way can be refered,‭ ‬but none of the way works for me.‭
At last,‭ ‬I have found out a way on myself.‭ ‬I buy everything needed for cooking,‭ ‬chicken that‭’‬s already Sembelih,‭ ‬kicap,‭ ‬few vegetables‭…‬ Then I was invited my mother come to my house,‭ ‬ask her to cook it at my‭ ‬house‭’‬s‭ ‬kitchen.‭ ‬ (I moved out since married‭)

Finally,‭ ‬I was very enjoying with what my mother cooked.‭ ‬My mother seems glad that‭’‬s I was eating what she cooked.‭ ‬I was trying hard to show my mother the message that‭’‬s I am still her son,‭ ‬I‭ ‬eat what she cooked..‭ ‬And Islam is never asking me to leave parent behind.‭


I know Islam have been frustrated my mother,‭ ‬and it‭’‬s my responsible to show her the beauty of Islam.‭

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri, Maaf Zahir Batin...

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri, Maaf Zahir dan Batin...
Semoga Allah swt menerima Ibadat puasa kami sepanjang Bulan Ramadhan..

Thanks my mother

Last week, My parent come to pay a visit at my house. Already been few months they are not visit our daughter.. "Are you fasting like malays?" That's what my mother asked me always, however I am remain silent because I don't know how to explain the importance and amazement of fasting in Ramadhan.

While they come to my house, my mother give me a pack of dry food. "You should eat Oatmeal, it would let you stay healthy while fasting. And there's 100 plus, biscuits." (Before this my mother even give me mooncake with halal chop on it. She tried so hard to understand what I cared)

All I can think about is love between mother and son are never differed by religion. That's non-language expression, can't be judge with anything existed on earth. I appreciated what's my mother give me, perhaps it's a silent answer that she accepted me as muslim.


As long as my mother knows I am still his son, I am satisfied.

Adakah saya anak derhaka selepas memeluk Islam?

This is my answer based on question by Sister Aliya's "Soalan" (Link to Original Post).

8.‭ ‬Mereka yang nonMuslim akan menuduh saya anak derhaka kerana tidak mengenang jasa ibu bapa yang membesarkan saya sehingga saya sanggup membelakangkan keluarga dan memeluk agama Islam,‭ ‬seterusnya tidak lagi dapat bersama keluarga melakukan upacara keagamaan dan tradisi.‭ ‬Benarkah tuduhan mereka bahawa saya menjadi anak derhaka jikalau memeluk Islam‭?

Terutama sekali,‭ ‬Islam tidak menyuruh kita membelakangkan keluarga kita yang tercinta.‭ ‬Sebaliknya kita perlu melayan ibu bapa kita dengan lebih‭ ‬mesra dan sentiasa menjaga hati orang tua.‭ ‬Seperti apa yang difirman oleh Allah swt‭ ‬ dalam‭ ‬Surah al-Israa‭'‬,‭ ‬ayat‭ ‬23‭ ‬maksudnya:‭

"‬Dan Tuhanmu telah perintahkan,‭ ‬supaya engkau tidak menyembah melainkan kepada-Nya semata-mata,‭ ‬dan‭ ‬hendaklah engkau berbuat baik kepada ibu bapa.‭ ‬Jika salah seorang dari keduanya,‭ ‬atau kedua-duanya sekali,‭ ‬sampai kepada umur tua dalam jagaan dan peliharaanmu,‭ ‬maka janganlah engkau berkata kepada mereka‭ (‬sebarang perkataan kasar‭) ‬sekalipun perkataan‭ "‬Ha‭"‬,‭ ‬dan janganlah engkau menengking menyergah mereka,‭ ‬tetapi katakanlah kepada mereka perkataan yang mulia‭ (‬yang bersopan santun‭)"‬.

Cuba bayangkan hanya sekadar berkata‭ ‬“Ha‭”‬ juga ditegah,‭ ‬juga sebagai peringatan kepada mukmin bahawa kita tidak boleh melampaui batas dengan ibu bapa‭ ‬walaupun‭ ‬bercakap-cakap‭ ‬dengan nada yang tinggi.

Saya juga teringat peristiwa‭ ‬mualaf‭ ‬yang melanda jiran saya.‭ ‬Anak lelaki jiran saya telah meninggalkan keluarganya semenjak memeluk islam dan berkahwin dengan muslimah.‭ ‬Jiran saya asyik berkata:‭ ‬“Sungguh memalukan‭! ‬Anak saya sanggup meninggalkan segala adat budaya demi‭ ‬berkahwin dengan‭ ‬bangsa lain.‭ ‬Sampai sekarang‭ ‬saya tak pernah jumpa anak dia yang dah berumur‭ ‬2‭ ‬tahun‭…‬”

Kesalahan yang paling besar ialah meninggalkan keluarga selepas memeluk Islam,‭ ‬padahal Islam menyuruh kita berbuat baik kepada ibu bapa.‭ ‬Segolongan mualaf tidak boleh menahan tekanan daripada keluarga serta maruah sendiri,‭ ‬malah mereka telah milih jalan yang paling sempit.‭ ‬Pernahkah Allah swt menyuruh kita meninggalkan ibu yang bersusah payah mengandung kita selama‭ ‬9‭ ‬bulan‭? ‬Adakah jasa ibu bapa‭ ‬tidak dikenang budi‭?

Diriwayatkan dari Abu Hurairah r.a berkata: Telah datang seorang laki-laki kepada Rasulullah saw lalu bertanya: “Siapakah manusia yang paling berhak untuk aku layani dengan sebaik mungkin?” Rasulullah saw bersabda: “Ibumu.”

Orang itu bertanya lagi: “Kemudian siapa?” Rasulullah saw bersabda: “Kemudian ibumu.”

Orang itu terus bertanya: “Kemudian siapa?” Rasulullah saw bersabda: “Kemudian ibumu.”

Orang itu terus bertanya: “Kemudian siapa?” Rasulullah saw bersabda: “Kemudian ayahmu.”
[HR. Bukhori, Muslim, Ibnu Majjah, Ahmad]

Syurga dibawah tapak kaki ibu‭…‬ Ia merupakan perumpamaan kepada darjat dan jasa sebagai ibu yang mengandung dan bersusah payah mendidik kita sejak dilahirkan.‭ ‬Bagaimanapun,‭ ‬Allah swt jua yang menjadikan manusia,‭ ‬termasuk nenek moyang kamu dengan kuasa Allah swt.‭ ‬Maka kita patut mengikut setiap perintah daripada Allah swt agak tidak melakukan Syirik.‭

Dan apabila dikatakan kepada mereka:‭ ‬Turutlah apa yang telah diturunkan oleh Allah,‭ ‬mereka menjawab:‭ (‬tidak‭)‬,‭ ‬bahkan kami hanya menurut apa yang kami dapati datuk nenek kami lakukannya.‭ ‬Patutkah‭ (‬diikut‭) ‬sekalipun datuk neneknya itu tidak faham‭ ‬suatu apapun,‭ ‬dan tidak mendapat petunjuk‭?

（Surah‭ ‬Al Baqarah ayat‭ ‬170）

Upacara agama selain Islam diharamkan kerana ia mengandungi unsur Syirik yang boleh merosakkan Akidah.‭ ‬Kita sepatutnya menurut perintah daripada Allah swt dan bersyukur terhadap segala rezeki yang datang daripadaNya,‭ ‬bukannya agama ritual yang diada-adakan walaupun ia datang daripada nenek moyang.‭ ‬Sekiranya anda mengaji lebih lanjut,‭ ‬terdapat banyak kelemahan dan konflik dalam agama selain Islam dan ia tidak pernah‭ ‬“Perfect‭”‬.‭

Wahai orang yang beriman‭! ‬Janganlah kamu menjadikan bapa-bapa kamu dan saudara-saudaramu sebagai pemimpin jika mereka memilih kufur atas iman‭; ‬dan sesiapa di antara kamu yang menjadikan mereka pemimpin,‭ ‬maka merekalah orang yang zalim.

(Surah‭ ‬At Taubah ayat‭ ‬23)

Dan Kami wajibkan manusia berbuat baik kepada kedua ibu bapanya‭; ‬dan jika mereka berdua mendesakmu supaya engkau mempersekutukan Dengan-Ku dengan sesuatu yang tidak engkau ketahui tentangnya,‭ ‬maka janganlah engkau taat kepada mereka.‭ ‬Kepada Akulah tempat kembali kamu kemudian Aku akan menerangkan kepada kamu segala yang kamu telah kerjakan.

(Surah‭ ‬Al‭ '‬Ankabuut ayat‭ ‬8)

Bagaimanapun,‭ ‬Islam tidak menegah segala tradisi yang tidak melanggar syariat Islam.‭ ‬Saya‭ ‬sekeluarga‭ ‬juga memakai baju berwarna merah untuk meraihkan Tahun Baru Cina‭ ‬dengan‭ ‬ibu bapa saya.‭ ‬Cuma apa yang penting pastikan makanan Halal atau bersih dari sudut syariat Islam,‭ ‬ketahuilah menjaga tradisi‭ ‬yang sihat‭ ‬dan hati ibu bapa adalah digalakkan.‭

Semenjak kita dilahirkan,‭ ‬kita telah ditakdirkan hanya mempunyai‭ ‬pertalian dengan‭ ‬ibu dan bapa‭ ‬ yang tidak dapat dipisahkan.‭ ‬Mungkinkah kamu boleh menggantikan ibumu‭ ‬ dengan orang lain yang beragama islam tetapi dia tiada mempunyai sebarang perasaan kasih sayang terhadap kamu‭?

Sebagai anak,‭ ‬kita memikul tanggungjawab yang besar untuk membalas jasa ibu bapa.‭ ‬Jangan sekali-kali sedih atau marah sekiranya mereka menyakitkan hati kita,‭ ‬kerana mereka jua yang patut kita menghormati sepanjang umurnya seperti apa yang diperintah oleh Allah swt.‭ ‬Kita patut bersyukur setiap Hidayah yang diberikan oleh yang Maha Esa‭…

Dan tentulah Kami pimpin mereka ke jalan yang lurus.

(Surah‭ ‬An Nisaa‭'‬ ayat‭ ‬68)

"Soalan" by Sister Aliya

This article are posted from Sister Aliya's "Soalan" (Link to Original Post).
I found out those question are exactly what I faced, and I have met some answer for few question. I will write out fews article according to those question.. I need times to collect some interesting fact first, please stay tuned..


Saya masih ingat, ketika saya mula minat Islam, banyak juga perkara yang mengelirukan saya sehingga saya tidak pasti sama ada tindakan memeluk Islam adalah sesuai dan baik.
Bukannya kerana saya tidak percaya kepada wujudnya Tuhan Yang Esa.
Bukannya kerana saya tidak percaya bahawa Islam merupakan agama yang benar.
Cuma... saya masih ada soalan yang belum berjawab, dan reaksi sesetengah orang Islam sendiri turut mengelirukan saya. Ia sedikit sebanyak melengahkan saya daripada memeluk Islam.

Soalan yang sama juga ditujukan kepada saya oleh nonMuslim yang seolah-olah menyindir saya apabila mengetahui minat saya pada Islam ketika itu. Begitu juga, ditujukan oleh ahli keluarga apabila menyedari minat saya itu, dengan harapan minat saya terhadap Islam akan semakin pudar.

Di antara yang menghantui saya ketika itu:

1. Mengapa mahu peluk Islam sedangkan Islam itu banyak sangat ritual keagamaannya berbanding agama lain? Mesti sembahyang 5 kali sehari, mesti puasa, mesti bertudung dll sedangkan agama lain mudah sahaja?

2. Kalau Islam itu baik, mengapa ramai orang Islam menjadi Mat Rempit, penagih dadah, perogol, perompak, buang anak, berzina dan sebagainya? Bukankah itu menunjukkan ajaran Islam itu ada kelemahannya?

3. Mengapa orang Islam masih bergaduh/berperang sesama sendiri sedangkan Islam itu mengajar kedamaian? Antara orang politik, antara jiran tetangga, antara ahli keluarga? Kalau Islam itu baik, tentu orang Islam tak bergaduh sesama sendiri sebaliknya bersatu?

4. Islam membenarkan pergaduhan dan pembunuhan? JI, Taliban, Islam terrorists... semua mereka adalah orang Islam, bukan?

4. Kalau saya peluk Islam, di manakah boleh saya tinggal kalau saya dihalau oleh keluarga? Bagaimanakah saya nak hidup sedangkan segala perbelanjaan seharian disediakan oleh ibu bapa? Saya tak mahu tinggal di rumah perlindungan yang jauh dari pusat bandar kerana bimbang tak dapat sesuaikan diri tanpa kemudahan internet dan sebagainya.

5. Perlukah saya memberitahu keluarga saya bahawa saya mahu peluk Islam? Atau masuk Islam secara senyap-senyap?

6. Kalau saya masuk Islam secara senyap-senyap dulu dan berlakon seolah-olah saya belum Islam di hadapan ahli keluarga, bukankah itu bermaksud saya menipu ibu bapa dan ahli keluarga saya? Bukankah Islam mengajar umatNya supaya sentiasa jujur?

7. Apabila saya memeluk Islam, saya tidak lagi boleh melibatkan diri dalam ritual keagamaan keluarga saya yang masih nonMuslim. Sekiranya ibu bapa saya meninggal dunia, saya akan dituduh anak derhaka dan tidak mengenang budi kerana tidak melakukan upacara keagamaan mereka kerana ia bercanggah dengan ajaran Islam? Bagaimana saya harus hadapi keadaan itu nanti?

8. Mereka yang nonMuslim akan menuduh saya anak derhaka kerana tidak mengenang jasa ibu bapa yang membesarkan saya sehingga saya sanggup membelakangkan keluarga dan memeluk agama Islam, seterusnya tidak lagi dapat bersama keluarga melakukan upacara keagamaan dan tradisi. Benarkah tuduhan mereka bahawa saya menjadi anak derhaka jikalau memeluk Islam?

9. Perlukah saya menjadi Melayu apabila memeluk Islam, yakni berpakaian ala orang Melayu dan bertutur dalam Bahasa Melayu? Bagaimanakah saya harus kekalkan identiti saya sebagai orang Cina tetapi beragama Islam?

10. Orang Islam mendakwa bahawa Islam itu agama benar dan Allah itu Maha Esa, dan hanya satu tuhan. Apakah buktinya yang boleh saya yakinkah kepada ahli keluarga saya yang begitu negatif terhadap Islam?

Syukur alhamdulillah, dengan izinNya saya berjaya melakukannya, berhijrah dan memeluk Islam.
Bagaimana pula dengan mereka yang masih menanti jawapan kepada soalan-soalan seperti di atas, mereka yang 50%, 60% atau 70% berminat memeluk Islam?
Bolehkan anda membantu menjawab soalan-soalan tadi untuk meyakinkan mereka?